5 ‘Golden Rules’ for Choosing Your Bridal Party
Brides and grooms are sometimes taken off guard when they realize how difficult it can be to pick the “perfect” bridal party. You may have a general idea of who you see helping you walk down the aisle, but does that idea mesh with what your partner envisions? And how do you invite some friends without hurting other friends’ feelings?
While the process of choosing bridal party members can be messy, here are a few helpful tips to narrow down your list:
Choose based on who has supported (and will support) you as a couple
Your bridal party members should be the people you’re closest with and who’ve supported you on your path to the altar. Avoid extending a bridal party invitation to friends or family members who’ve been against your union from the beginning—you don’t need the negative vibes on your wedding day!
Narrow down based on your ‘ideal’ bridal party numbers
Not every wedding can support a giant bridal party (as appealing as it may sound to be surrounded by 30 of your best friends). Agree on a general “goal” number of bridesmaids and groomsmen based on different factors: What size is manageable? Is it important to have both sides be even? Will you include junior bridesmaids, flower girls, and ring bearers?
Keep your choices balanced on both sides of the aisle
If you choose to include siblings, etc., in your wedding party, it’s best to do so on both sides (which may alter the number of friends you can include). That way, no future family members end up feeling snubbed or left out.
Ask yourself, “Will this person still be in my life 20 years from now?”
The best rule of thumb is to choose individuals you truly believe will be around to support your marriage for the long haul. If you can’t picture that person in your life 10, 15 or 20 years down the road, you probably shouldn’t include them in your wedding party.
Don’t feel guilty for your choices
Avoid apologizing for or explaining your bridal party picks to friends or family who didn’t make the cut. Also, don’t cave and make last minute changes if someone requests an add—you’ll likely regret it later! Instead, make that person feel special in another way (i.e., a special corsage to wear on the day or a different role to help in the wedding).
with love & style from: Sandy D. (bridal blogger extraordinaire)
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