5 Ways to Fill Your Love Tank While Wedding Planning
A wedding is meant to be a celebration of a couple’s romantic relationship, but—ironically—can become mood killers for busy couples swamped with a never-ending “to-do” list. A study done by Zola.com showed that almost half of bridal couples say wedding planning put a strain on their relationship, and 86 percent of those surveyed admitted it caused them to suffer from anxiety, insomnia, mood swings, headaches, and a reduced sex drive.
Prior to an engagement, most people envision wedding planning as a whirlwind of pretty dresses, lavish tours and tastings, fun outings with a future spouse, and positive attention from everyone around them. Then, they get a reality check: Wedding planning is stressful, really hard work (it can be a full-time job!), and not always sparkles and romance. How do you keep the romance alive when you’re fighting over guest lists, wedding budgets and logistical issues?
1. Discuss your feelings with a loved one or professional
Sometimes a good vent-session with a supportive friend or family member is enough to alleviate some of the pressures of wedding planning. However, if you’re starting to feel out of control or wedding planning is creating major issues in your relationship, it may help to schedule a session with a couple’s counselor (some therapists are starting to specialize in bridal support!).
2. Sweat out the stress
Almost as good as therapy is exercise, which sparks stress-busting chemicals called endorphins (and will help you look and feel your best on your big day). Dedicated gym or workout time is proven to help reduce stress and curb depression. And, working out together is a great way to bond with your partner before the wedding!
3. Start a wedding journal
Writing down your feelings may help you deal with negative emotions that arise during wedding planning. Journaling during the peaks and pitfalls of planning not only helps with stress, but also records your wedding planning memories for later reference. If journaling or blogging doesn’t sound appealing, you can also engage in an app that’s specially geared toward couples (such as Happy Couple).
4. Set aside time for your partner
Put some dedicated date nights on the calendar (even if it means simply time to “Netflix and chill”). During these date nights, do your best to avoid discussing potentially stressful wedding planning topics. That way, you can remember exactly what started this whole process: Your unique relationship with your future partner.
5. Focus on the positive aspects of planning
Often, negativity breeds negativity, and things can spiral out of control. Place an emphasis on the things that are going well with wedding planning (versus the disasters or potential disasters). If you’re having difficulty being positive about the wedding itself, discuss fun aspects of your honeymoon or your newlywed plans instead.
with love & style from: Sandy D. (bridal blogger extraordinaire)
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