Can I Include a Flower Girl or Ring Bearer in an Adults-Only Wedding?
Having an adults-only wedding can make things tricky if you envision the traditional walk down the aisle, led by a cute flower girl or ring bearer. Is it fair to invite only a select few kids, but not all? Will other guests be offended?
The good news is that most guests will be understanding of your choice to include children in your bridal party (and not your ceremony or reception). Often, your flower girl or ring bearer will be the child of a close family member or friend, which means you have an implied relationship with that child. And, if you’re still worried about what other people might think, you can always make that relationship abundantly clear on your ceremony program.
Still, you’ll want to be careful to draw some clear boundaries. People might frown at inviting a handful of relatives’ kids, for example, if you aren’t allowing other guests’ children to attend (the best thing to do is create a policy and stick to it the best you can!). You’ll also need to decide how to handle the reception if you’re including kids in your bridal party: Are you allowing the children to stay for the reception, or would you prefer that they return home after the ceremony? It’s best to communicate your wishes and expectations with the parents ahead of time so they can plan for how to involve their child in your ceremony.
In the end, it will be up to your desires and discretion on where to draw the line when it comes to children being involved in your adults-only wedding festivities. Including children in your bridal party can make for a beautiful additional touch to your ceremony, but you may want to consider a child-free ceremony instead if being partially inclusive creates potential issues with other guests.
with love & style from: Sandy D. (bridal blogger extraordinaire)
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