Can You Disinvite a Wedding Guest?
You have a falling out with a friend. A couple breaks up. You have a family member that is causing all kinds of pre-wedding drama.
There are several reasons why you might change your mind on inviting a guest—even after a save-the-date or invitation is sent. But is it too late to go back on your promise?
Age-old rules of etiquette would say yes, you can’t disinvite someone once invitations are already sent. It’s your wedding, however, and therefore your choice as to who you want there to support you as a couple.
* When to disinvite:
If the idea of having a guest at your wedding makes you or your spouse feel uncomfortable, or if you feel as if his or her attendance will dampen your special day, you may want to consider a disinvite.
You’ll need to weigh your options in your unique scenario. Is this someone you want to continue to have a relationship with or see regularly after your wedding? If so, taking back a wedding invitation might burn some bridges. Is this a mildly irritating situation (that you’ll probably forget a year in the future) or is this something that keeps you up at night? If your problem with the guest isn’t huge, then it may just be better to grin and bear it.
* How to disinvite:
How to disinvite a wedding guest depends on what kind of relationship you want to have with him or her in the future. If you want the guest to be a part of your future married life, you’ll need to place a call (or, at the very least, send a delicately written letter or email) explaining your situation and why you’d like to rescind your invitation.
If you don’t care whether or not that person is a part of your future, you’re free to handle the disinvite however feels comfortable to you—through email, text or simply not sending a formal invitation. Exercise caution, however: Telling someone tactfully is better than ignoring the situation or writing them off in an angry outburst. Depending on how big your circle of acquaintances is, you may see this person again (and they may see photos and posts from your wedding online).
with love & style from: Sandy D. (bridal blogger extraordinaire)
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