Can You Invite an Ex to a Wedding?
You probably have a dating history before your fiancé (and same for your fiancé). After all, a girl has to kiss a few frogs before finding her prince, right? Sometimes, however, those frogs linger around and relationships turn to friendships…and then, you’re stuck with the dilemma of whether or not to invite your frog to your royal wedding.
As with most etiquette rules, your decision will ultimately be up to you and your future spouse. Here are some questions to ask before sending that invite:
* Is it important to have this person at the wedding?
Are you going to even notice or miss an ex’s presence at your wedding? If not, it might be best to err on the side of caution and not invite him or her. But if so, an invite may be called for. For example, if an ex is an ex-husband or ex-wife that’s involved with your children, it might make sense to have that person part of this new chapter in your life.
* Is my fiancé okay with it?
Take some time to discuss this with your fiancé before sending an invite. If a person is going to make your fiancé feel uncomfortable, it’s not worth a battle to have them attend. After all, their opinion is (and will be) 50 percent of the equation!
* Will this person be in my life long-term?
Is this a friendship that’s been going on for several years, possibly since childhood? Is this someone you see being in your future, even after you’re a happily married couple? Sometimes simply asking yourself—or your fiancé—these questions can give you an answer.
* Will this person have a date?
An ex coming solo to a wedding might be awkward! If an ex is happily coupled, however, that legitimizes their presence and calms some nerves.
* Will this person cause drama?
If you have any indication that an ex might not be on board with your wedding or fiancé, you should burn his or her wedding invite. There’s enough to worry about at your wedding without having to be paranoid about how a wedding guest will behave!
Often, weddings will show a friend’s true colors. If your friendship with an ex isn’t strong enough to pass the wedding invite test, odds are that person will simply RSVP “no” to your wedding day festivities.
with love & style from: Sandy D. (bridal blogger extraordinaire)
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