Dos and Don’ts of a Second Wedding
Decided to remarry? If you’re lucky enough to find love a second time around, it should definitely be celebrated!
Planning a second wedding can an exciting—and possibly daunting—prospect. If you’re unsure about all that’s involved in a second (or third, or fourth!) wedding, here are a few “dos” and “don’ts” for your second time around:
DO: Tell your kids first
If either of you have children from a previous marriage, they should be the first to be told about an engagement. After all, a new marriage means they’re gaining a new stepmother or stepfather—a change that may take a while to process.
DO: Have the wedding you want
Remarrying doesn’t mean you’re tied to an intimate, low-key ceremony. Don’t be afraid to plan the wedding of your dreams for number two, whether that means a laid-back barbeque or an elegant affair.
DO: Wear white
Ignore the outdated rule that white is only for first marriages. Very few guests would consider your white gown a faux pas for your second wedding.
DO: Involve your children
If you do have children, include them in your planning and as part of the wedding. Giving them a role in your wedding will help them get excited for the event and help cement the idea that you are now (officially) a family.
DON’T: Plan a wedding similar to your first wedding
While you have no limits on the format of your second wedding, you don’t want it to look too much like your previous wedding. You’ll want to create an entirely different experience for your guests (many who will be the same who attended your first wedding) and for yourselves.
DON’T: Anticipate family to cover expenses
If your family pitched in for your first wedding, don’t expect them to do so again (unless they want to). Instead, plan to split those costs with your future spouse.
DON’T: Expect wedding gifts
Many of your guests pitched in for your first wedding, so don’t be surprised if they come empty-handed. Some second-timers opt out of a registry, while others register for less traditional items or have proceeds go toward a charity of their choice.
DON’T: Be disappointed
Chances are not everyone will be exactly thrilled in your choice to move on, and some guests or members of your bridal party might not put in the time or effort they technically should. However, try not to take it personally—this day is about your new partnership (and not comparable to your previous wedding).
with love & style from: Sandy D. (bridal blogger extraordinaire)
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