How to Fire a Bridesmaid
Most bridesmaids consider it an honor to be part of a bride squad and take their “duties” seriously. Other bridesmaids—for whatever reason—may not be as up to the task of entering your entourage (and make that very clear by sabotaging your carefully laid wedding plans).
Weddings are often high-pressure and high-commitment, and this tends to reveal people’s true colors. Your existing relationships will be refined, defined, made or broken during this process (whether you like it or not). This includes your relationships with members of your bridal party!
It’s crucial you have women around you that will support you through this major life transition…and if they don’t, it’s time to simply kick them off your team. But how do you take back an invitation (essentially fire) a bridesmaid you love?
- Be aware of your risks: Before you even have the conversation, weigh the consequences. You will need to be prepared for your relationship with this person to potentially change (or be over) as a result.
- Meet in person: Experts agree that you shouldn’t break this news via email, text or over the phone. Meet face-to-face so your bridesmaid knows you take this decision seriously.
- Clearly state your wishes: The best way to tackle this conversation is by being direct and honest about what you want to happen. For example, you might say, “I love you, but I’d rather you come to my wedding as a guest instead of a bridesmaid.”
- Provide an explanation: You can’t just drop a bomb without explaining your reasoning behind your decision. Get to the heart of what isn’t working in your bride-bridesmaid relationship (i.e., “I don’t think you can devote enough attention,” or “I don’t feel supported by you in this role”).
- Listen to her side: Allow your friend a rebuttal and chance to speak her peace. After all, this is a decision that’s likely going to sting quite a bit!
- Apologize: Share with your bridesmaid any of your own wrongdoings that may have contributed to this outcome. Then, apologize for the situation and let her know you care for her.
with love & style from: Sandy D. (bridal blogger extraordinaire)
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