Who Should Pay for a Wedding?
The average cost of a wedding is just over $35,000 (not including the honeymoon), which is a lot of dough for a couple to shoulder all on their own. Who should pay for a wedding, and how much should they pay?
The source of wedding finances is a complicated—and even emotional—issue for all parties involved. Tradition suggests certain family members should pay for specific wedding costs, but your reality may differ based on your relationship and your family’s financial standing.
What Tradition Says:
According to tradition, the bride’s family pays for a majority of the wedding (i.e., ceremony and reception rental, catering, dress and accessories, and floral arrangements). The groom’s family is expected to pick up the tab for the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon. Any other additional costs, such as an engagement party or photography, can be covered be either side.
The cost of weddings has steadily inflated over the past decade, far faster than incomes have risen. More than likely, wedding expenses will need to be shared among the bride and groom and their respective families. On average, the brides parents cover 44% of the wedding, the bride and groom cover 42%, and the groom’s parents cover 13% (according to The Knot’s 2016 Real Weddings Study).
Your first step is to communicate with your families about costs (welcome to one of the most uncomfortable conversations you’ll ever have with your family and in-laws!). Rather than making assumptions, ask what they feel comfortable paying for and commit them to a dollar amount. Or, if it’s easier, ask them to pay for specific items (i.e., the rehearsal dinner or honeymoon). Try not to take things too personally if someone offers less than you expected—instead, take another look at your budget and re-adjust as necessary.
with love & style from: Sandy D. (bridal blogger extraordinaire)
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